It is always hard to start dating especially after a break up, or if it’s been a long while. Making a great first impression is really important. Genevieve Zawada, Dating, Relationship Coach, CEO of a top London Introduction agency Elect Club and Expert for Guruandgo.com has some great tips to ensure you get things right from the word go.
How do you present yourself?
It’s all about presentation as people make up their minds in the first 10 seconds and often don’t change their minds after they are set. Ensure you look your best and wear clothes that are good for your shape and have style. Try to keep things simple and stylish. Always find out where you are going on a date and check out dress codes too.
- Ladies don’t overdo the make-up, in a recent survey of our members, over 90% of our men said they prefer less makeup and a more natural look.
- Keep make-up fresh and light.
- Chaps, male grooming is so important, the things that really put ladies off is extra nasal or ear hair and as we all get older, this needs to be kept in check.
- Make sure you have a good haircut and are shaven and fresh.
- Personal hygiene is a big thing for men and women as is too much perfume or aftershave. It is really important to get the “smell just right”.
- Fresh breath is so important, there is nothing more off putting than a dose of halitosis, avoid foods you know won’t help you feel comfortable too. No Garlic or strong foods for a few days before a date. Use breath freshener if you need to.
- If you are going on a date straight from work, chaps bring a clean shirt and ladies change into something.
- There is a good psychological reason not to go on a date in the same clothes you have spent the day working in.
Manners Maketh Man and Woman
When it comes to manners there are 3 real deal breakers
- Men be chivalrous, ladies do like to be treated like a lady on a date, so even if they are really independent, don’t let that stop you holding doors open, letting the lady go in first, waiting for her to sit down at a table, even holding her chair for her. Manners go a long way.
- Secondly, remember to both make eye contact when you meet, shake hands or a light peck on the cheek, if it feels right.
- Thirdly, don’t use your mobile phone when you are in each other’s company. If you need to check it for anything urgent then do so in the bathroom.
Other things that we hear people complain about are
- dates that yawn or check their watch. If you really are tired or bored and want to leave, then make a good excuse to go but don’t try subtle hints as they are seen as rude.
- Never talk about an ex on a first or second date.
- Don’t talk about work too much either. It is fine to say what you do in your job, but please don’t make the date into a business meeting or an interview.
- Ask questions of your date’s life to find out more, but not in a “Spanish Inquisition” way.
- Talk about things that make you happy, great holidays, family or things that have made you particularly proud of yourself.
- Be genuinely interested in the other person as even if they are not right for you they may have a friend who is!