Valentines can be really hard for many people and recently I spoke about this on the radio and how to avoid the pitfalls of emotionally being taken on that journey when single or in a relationship.

Not everyone who is in a Relationship likes Valentine’s Day either! So I have been told by many people, where their “other half” doesn’t believe in celebrating this romantic day but they would like to and therefore it is not made special for them.   Also many people nowadays don’t like all the commercialisation that seems to be associated with this day.  Personally I think that you should show your appreciation for the one you love 365 days of the year and not just on one day, when you feel you have to!

Being Single on Valentine’s Day can be really difficult for some singletons, but also for those in relationships too, so here is my survival guide for this 14th February.

  • Go out with a group of good friends and have fun somewhere you know there won’t be large numbers of “loved up” couples, bowling is great fun or a nice coffee shop is always a good option or go and see a good movie but avoid sitting near the loved up snoggers in the back row.
  • Avoid places where “couples” are likely to be and showing outwardly their affection for each other. For example restaurants and bars promoting couples evenings.
  • Play some sport or go to an exercise class
  • Stay in, spoil yourself with your favourite food and do what you want to do, to celebrate “being you!”
  • Pamper yourself, guys as well as girls like a treat now and then, so use this excuse to look after you and check into a healthclub or go for a swim, sauna etc.
  • If you are in a friendship that you want to be more, try to be spontaneous and do something that will make your friend feel special, even though you should be doing this all the time, this could be a good place to start.
  • Invite friends over for a movie or games night, board games like monopoly or trivial pursuit are becoming increasingly popular amongst friends and are great fun too
  • If there is someone you would like to “get to know better” this is the day to pluck up the courage and tell them or send them a card or small gift
  • If you have your eye on someone, don’t overwhelm a “potential partner” as this may put them off, make sure “your offering” will be received in the spirit it is given in and not be some enormous gesture that embarrasses both them and you
  • Book yourself on a singles event, electclub.co.uk for singles who are looking to meet like-minded singles.

Being single in February for some is a really difficult time of year, just remember to look after yourself and do lovely things for you.  If you really want to change your relationship status then there are a number of things you can do.

  • Make sure you feel confident about yourself and are ready to start dating again
  • Get yourself in great shape, if you look good you feel good.
  • Make sure you look your best, do you need a hair cut? Do you need to update your wardrobe? Ask friends for advice to ensure you are maximising your real potential.
  • Remember the law of attraction, “you attract, what you give off” so what are you giving off? Are you always moaning that no one will find you attractive or there are no singles you fancy?  If that is the case, then guess what that is exactly what you will attract in to your life.
  • Positivity breeds positivity, know your worth, realise who you are and what you have to offer, take up a new hobby to meet interesting new people and gain some confidence.

Come to our Masquerade party on the 21st February or book in to meet with Genevieve personally, she is the UK’s most known and successful Transformational matchmaking coach who ensures you get the right results with her no nonsense approach to matchmaking she will tell you within 20 minutes of meeting you where you are going wrong and how you can transform your dating journey.

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“I can’t believe I am getting married this summer! I can’t thank you enough for your encouragement, coaching and support to help me get to this incredible place.  I will share photos with you as soon as I have them of us tying the knot in our fairytale castle.”

“Genevieve gave me the confidence to start dating again and also challenged my preconceptions about what I was looking for in a partner.  The whole experience felt very safe and I felt well supported.  I would recommend Genevieve and Elect to anyone looking for a professional and grown up approach to dating.”